Hey, there you all. This
is Lisan Boskia, the founder of shaping
freedom, and first of all I
am going to welcome myself back. It
has been a little bit since I
recorded a podcast episode. I have been
knee deep in a bunch of other
really exciting projects, but I really missed
this that I missed you all,
and some really excited to be back and
particularly excited to introduce to you my
next guest. She is the founder of
equilibrium by Cynthia. This woman emanates
joy and happiness and centeredness and I met
her over instagram. Actually, she's
local to San Diego as well, but
somehow another, we found each other
on instagram. Cynthia is a yoga teacher,
she's a light worker and a healer, and the conversation that we had
was a conversation really about diving into
your soul, taking a look at your
soul, confronting the things that stand
in the way of our joy, and
also what you do when you find
yourself self in a place of being,
in that dark night of the soul, those times that send you into the
fetal position on your floor where you
are wondering what you're going to do and
how you're going to move forward,
and Cynthia and I had a chat about
that, during which she shared her
own journey. There's so much to get
out of this interview and I am
really excited for you to be able to
experience it, and so, without
further ADO, here is my conversation with
Cynthia. So, good morning,
Cynthia. I am so excited to share
a few minutes here this morning with
Cynthia Delaney. Cynthia and I do not
know each other or this is the
first conversation that we're having, and we
are also instagram buddies, and so
it's funny how you can have conversation with
people on social media and connect and
feel as if you know each other or
that at least you've started the conversation. Some really excited to put a face
to the name and anyway, yeah, and a voice to the words.
Cynthia and I were chat being a
couple of moments ago about the fact that
she is just back from her annual
yoga retreat. Soul Song, is that
the name of it? Yeah,
Soul Song, you treat that's right.
Yeah, so maybe why don't you
introduce yourself to the audience and let them
know a little bit about what happens
during some yeah, love to thank you,
lissn. It's such a pleasure to
be here. Thank you for inviting
me. You're welcome US speak with
you and to meet you. And Yeah,
I said in our pre recorded conversation
that I just love what you're doing
and your work is very much kind
of like the same thing that I'm doing,
from a different perspective, I think, because we both begin with that.
The minute you stop being the victim
of your life and you take charge
of your life, that's when things
are going to change, right. So
absolutely. Yeah. So I really
appreciate what you're doing and love to talk
to you and love to talk in
general about just the journey of the soul,
right. I mean that is why
we're all here. We're here it's
it's not a dress, that's rehearsal
right, we're here to really learn and
grow. And so my work as
an entrepreneur and, you know, Yoga
teacher, spiritual healer, I do
meditation and I teach and talk about the
soul, the journey of the soul. So, anyway, I lead extended
retreat in Colorado, which is four
days and it's a small, exclusive one
that takes place usually every September.
It's a beautiful time there and it's about
transition time, and so we just
got back and it was a weekend of
everybody coming there was looking for some
fresh perspective, you know, because we're
all just changing. Things are changing, and also it seems like everybody's at
a transition point right now, I
mean after covid and everything. So just
to allow that time to get out
of your usual groove and to get everybody
there on eighty five acres of beautiful
sage brush snuggled right against the Old San
Juan Mountains, and there's nothing.
I go wow, the music in those
mountains gets you singing your song,
let me tell you. So we had
an adventure and you know, it's
a good balance between activities and meditation,
and that's why I named my business
equilibrium, because it is about balance,
right, I mean. So that's
basically my joy, to just help us,
you know, help women find that
wholeness and that balance within themselves through
the spiritual practices. Really that's mainly
my focus. So yeah, I love
that you're leading that and, as
you know, I am a huge supporter
of helping people to really stand in
their skin, to stand fully in their
lives and to do that from a
place of empowerment and from a place of
full receptivity of the person that we
that you are, the person that you're
created to be. So I love
like you are certainly singing my song,
my sins right here, you know, because you know life is it's a
challenge and it is this beautiful journey
that ebbs and flows and their dips and
you know that happened along the way. And the importance of finding time to
resonate with your soul, the Self
K you know, you're really the true
selfcare, which is ensuring that you're
connecting in spiritually, is the thing that
helps the rest of the year go
differently, you know, and lighter.
So I really am happy to hear
that you're doing that work. Thank you.
Yeah, and you know it takes
court, it takes courage and it
does take just self inquiry, right. I mean you have to be willing
to go there. I know for
the longest time I wasn't willing to go
there. I was just living that
autopilot life, you know, easy,
breezy, and really in some ways
that works for you, because then you
don't put any pressure on yourself and
things just sort of come you know,
and it's like yeah, I know, I think you're feeling it, but
it's like, you know, you
wind up pushing everything into a closet and
living like in one percent, if
you were capacitory that stuff down in that
pat door's box, until one day
it busts out on you. Yeah,
I know, that was my experience. So, at any rate, I
I do find that when I take
that time and I go inward really and
connecting with that. And you know, the place that I found that first
was on my Yoga Mat and,
of course, you know, through church
and everything. I mean I've always
been a soul seeker and, you know,
trying to find meaning, a greater
meaning. So as it turned out,
you know, I had a blow
back. Oh and when this all
began, this spiritual awakening for me, which you know, is a journey,
when you look back, you've really
been doing it all your life.
You've been accepting and seeing different aspects
of yourself. But the big turning point
for me was in what year was
that? Two Thousand and fourteen, our
daughter, my husband and I have
one child, and she went off to
college and she wanted to go to
college in England because she wanted to be
an English professor and you know,
when you have one kid you want them
to have it all right. So
she went off to England and it was
just really devastating having her that far
away. And also, you know,
just that you realize that when you're
married to someone, just when that other
person isn't around and what's left between
you two? Right? So yeah,
me and my husband, we ended
up deciding to split up. We were
apart for about eighteen months with the
intention of divorce, you know, just
letting it settle, trying to just
create our new lives wherever we were at
that point. And it was just
the first time that I was ever alone,
really alone in my with myself,
because, you know, I'm I'm
kind of out there. I'm a
outgoing person. I have an extroverse,
extrovert personality, but being alone was
scary for me. So that is when
I was so lonely, so afraid, and I just started doing yoga all
the time, like every day,
and stay just once a week, you
know, and I started taking this
beautiful class with this woman named Marie and
she just opened me up to so
much more the depth of my own being
that it was only found when I
was being quiet and silent and breathing.
And then, of course, praying
was always important. I started meditating and
finding that comfort and just the spaciousness
that it brought me, and the mm
just as well, of my own
wisdom that I had all along that I
didn't know it, you know,
because sometimes we can let others take care
of things for us, right,
and whether or not we agree with it,
we just it's easier that way not
to take charge. So so,
anyway, that was the unfolding of
it all, and the blessing of it
was I started the yoga training.
I didn't even want to or think about
teaching or doing anything. Up until
that point I'd been the professional mother and
volunteer and you know, in my
church I was very active as a euchroustic
minister and leader of Youth Group and
prayer partners and all kinds of stuff.
So anyway, I was busy.
But anyway I started with this idea,
well, I'm going to do this
yoga training just for personal transformation, and
I found out, guess what,
I'm a good teacher, I'm methodical,
I'm a virgo, so I know
how to get times day to yeah,
Burgers, we're in that, the
vergobotment. It's beautiful. The high expression
of Virgo is good. So sometimes
I got a tame down that lower but
wow, get out. Yeah.
So, anyway, get into the long
story. Short. Started that path. Realize, Oh my God, this
is so damn good I have to
share this. So in my home I
have a big, beautiful backyard.
I said, let's do yoga. We
put in a yoga studio just in
an old play room that's got this open
loft area. So anyway, I
invited, you know, just some of
my friends to come and that's how
equilibrium by Cynthia was born, because the
balance that it brought me, those
spiritual practices was just a life changing and
through that transformation, this one thing
led to another, as it does,
you know, and Lo and behold, my husband and I we got back
together. We are happier than we've
ever been and we needed that time apart
to grow, each one of us
individually, and now it's just been the
mission for my soul to continue that
growth and also just share. That what
I understand about it now, just
like you're doing this son. Yeah,
I love that story. And so
what were what were the major things that
you learned while on that Matt,
during that those eighteen months? Such a
great question. I learned how reactive
I was to the external I learned how
the compass was actually from within,
not what I was seeing outside of myself,
and I also learned that I do
love my husband. I did love
him, even though I was so
mad at him I could just taken his
little beautiful neck and just done something
bad. Yeah, might have. With
the point is, when you have
that time to figure things out and that
space and that just moment to close
your eyes and drop in there, and
you know what stuff comes up and
you got to deal with it. The
fact that I'm not proud of a
lot of the ways and the things I
used to do, you know.
But what are you going to do about
it? You're going to rectify,
you're going to make those apologies, you're
going to go out and try to, you know, make good on that,
and then you're gonna teach others how
not to do the stupid things that
you did by just taking time for
themselves. Right. So did you find?
Did you find that the was the
key for you, spending time with
yourself so that you could explore was
that the the catalyst to write the relationship
with yourself and the relationship that you
were able to refuel, I guess,
with your husband. Yeah, that
is a beautiful way of putting it.
Empowering Myself, and you know,
I'm naturally a happy person. I know
sometimes people don't like to hear that, but I just I always was that
way. I just I don't have
you know, I have not been depressed,
thank God. I've never been like
just in that except for that.
During that time I was in that
place of despair and I thought for the
first time, oh my God,
how do people wake up every day like
this? I mean I grew my
compassion when I myself was knocked off of
my usual you know, joy train
or whatever you want to call it,
which, yeah, included a lot
of avoidance probably, and things like that.
But I've really been just like that
dolphin, just going with the flow.
Whatever was expected of me, whatever
was going to happen, I let
it happen and I shaped it a
little bit here and there. Went to
college, got a job as a
flight attendant. Loved that job, love
flying, traveling, meeting people and
but all, at the end of the
day, all I was doing was
having fun. I wasn't doing anything meaningful,
and then when I became a mother, that was a whole nother thing.
You're in that mode, as you
know you have children, of just
taking care of business right, taking
care of business, trying to do there
the right thing, the best thing
for everybody, and then when they go
bye bye, it's like wow,
what am I working with here? Who
Am I and what have I been
doing? So I think it was that
awareness of taking responsibility. I remember, I remember it clearly. I was
on the bottom of a hose on
the floor and my closet, my husband
had just come I was away and
my parents house and he had just come
back and taken all of his clothes
out of our closet that we share and
it was empty and I went in
there and was something. I'm still kind
of emotional about it. It was
the first time I was like, oh
my he's really gone, this is
really happening. I went down on my
knees crying and I just put my
head down and I just said I can't,
I can't be alone, I just
can't be alone. And I swear
a voice inside me said yes,
you can and you will and you're going
to do this, and that was
when I was just like, yeah,
I've got to learn how to be
alone, and that's what I do.
So it's takes some kinds of crisis, of Little Dark Knight of the soul
right to spur us into action.
But what I found out is that I
absolutely had everything I needed all along, and I'm so glad. You know,
two things that you said that I
want to point out. One is
I to have, for the most
part throughout my life, been a pretty
I'm a pretty optimistic person. Yeah, and I try really actively to see
the positive in things, because I
come from a belief system that says you
get to choose what you're going to
take from a situation, and so you
can either take the story that paints
you as a victim or as someone to
whom horrible things happen and that ten
people are terrible doing the horrible things,
or you can look at it and
see a what are you learning from that
situation? Who are you in that
situation? Because that's really the thing,
like that's the thing, like a
person can do anything or we encounter unpleasant
things, or potentially unpleasant things all
the time, and the real question and
the question that matters and where we
have influence is who we are in that
situation and what we do. And
so I'm sorry, I'm kind of like
digressing because I have like fiftyzero thoughts
at one time. Point I'm making is
that sometimes, when, and I
think a lot of folks are today feeling
anxious or depressed or feeling sadder than
they are accustomed to feeling, and sometimes
it's not this horrible pit that you're
in. You're actually on your journey to
something else and that journey sometimes feels
uncomfortable. It's just like learning a new
pose in Yoga. where, yeah, where you you know? I'll tell
you for myself. I throughout the
pandemic. I was one of those put
on covid weight people and I did
not do a lot of work and I
did a lot of working. And
so when I first got back on my
that I went to do as simple
oppose as downward facing dog, and I
got to tell you, my arms
were like, what the actual heck are
you just? You can't do and
you did it, but I did it
right. And so you can take
those moments, those few seconds, are
those few minutes of your day and
call those the make that the star of
your story, or you can understand
that it's actually taking you someplace else,
because had you not experienced that discomfort, had you not felt the way that
you felt and had the thoughts that
you had, you it would have been
very difficult for you to get to
where you are today, having gotten to
the other side of this. And
I said absolutely truth. And you know
what, I recognize that and and
I'm so, so blessed by and with,
you know, all of the help
that I've had, I mean my
teachers. I attend a metaphysical school
that has just totally transformed the way that
I view life itself and anyway,
I'm so grateful for all the support and
the help that I've had. And
really we cannot do it alone. We
just can't see because we need those
mentors and those people who, in that
moment when you're down on your knees, they have that little ladder and you
can just see it up there and
you're need to grab onto that run you
know they're waiting for you up there
right absolutely, and I totally resonate with
what you said about it being like
just taken at one step at a day
at a time, and absolutely daily
practices transform you. That is my mantra.
Absolutely, it is the total transformation. You have to do a little
bit, not a lot, just
a little bit every day and you're going
to stay in your group. I
believe that's true. That's true every for
you. Yeah, thank you.
That's true of everything in life. It's
true even of growing a plant.
You know, you get a plan,
you don't douse it with a little
bit of water and walk in the next
day and have the thing you know
towering over you. So long to learn
that and I killed everything I ever
had when I was younger. It takes
time. It takes time and I
think that sometimes we are we see people
who are smiling and who have gone
through the journey and who have established,
you know, their entrepreneurial endeavors or
whatever the things are that we do on
our during our journey, and I
think sometimes people miss the fact that it
is a journey and it takes time
and you don't learn all the things in
one second. No, and you
know what it takes, perseverance and discipline
and to attain anything, especially to
master your lower self, your ego.
You're the parts of you that are
so ingrained that you believe that they're you.
But then you realize, man,
that's not really cool that I do
that or I think that way or
I mean and and during this past oh
man, covid for everybody, what
an eye open her into our own the
wallpaper of our minds. Right,
absolutely totally crazy stuff came up. For
me, yeah, like wow,
I never even felt that I saw things
that way. I've been just really
doing some deep soul searching with along with
the rest of the planet. After
what two thousand and twenty, that's January,
two thousand and twenty some yeah,
turning point? Well, yes,
and I think it absolutely has felt
like and seemed like a huge turning point.
And I don't I think that for
those of us who are in the
service, in the work of service, I think it's also very important that
we recognize that it's not over.
No, it's not over. Are Of
this. This is a and what
I what I meet, just to clarify
what I mean by that statement that
it's not over, is that's so so
many of us were, I think
things are changing today, and so many
of us were ways to just kind
of pick ourselves up by a bootstraps and
keep it going and to walk through
sometimes really challenging situations. Just shake it
off, put on a little bit
of lipstick or, you know, put
your tie on or whatever the things
are that you do in the persona of
your daytoday life, to just do
those things and keep it trucking. And
what I'm observing is more and more
people who are struggling to get back on
their feet, whatever that looks like, but to get back to their center,
because the truth of the matter is
is that no matter what side of
the political fence of personal is on, it doesn't matter. No matter what
side of the, you know,
racism fence a person is on does not
really matter in this conversation or the
public health situation, whatever side of the
fence VACs not fat whatever. Yeah, the truth of the matter is that
every single one of us have experienced
something happening in our world that is so
different from anything that we've ever experienced
before, and we may be a little
better prepared should something like this happen
again at some point in some other way,
but this we've never experienced and it's
really important, especially, I believe,
for us as people who are in
service to the soul and to the
spirit, that we recognize that and
help people to understand that what you're feeling
doesn't mean that your life is shitty. It means that we are getting to
a point in this process where the
survival mechanisms are starting to maybe dissipate a
little bit and once you get to
the other side of a survival point,
you have to turn or your called
to now face some of the other things
that we're going on that perhaps you
could not deal with at the time.
Very similar, if you don't mind
me saying, share the experience that you
had where it's like you're raising kids
and you don't have, I mean you
have some time to think about things
that are going on. I had a
similar experience where I was raising children
with my ex husband and that takes a
lot of energy in time and you
know, working home and children and all
of that, and then there comes
a point when some of that gets pulled
away. You know, they get
older or whatever, and they got a
high school, but they go to
high school whatever, and then they got
high so they don't want to talk
to you exactly, and then said they're
not talking to me. I guess, Hey, who are you? Who
Am I? Who are you that? So I just I'm saying that and
sharing that, just to say for
folks who are maybe feeling a little off
their axel right now. So it's
perfectly understandable, it is and we all
have our role. Right like me, I'm let's just say, you know,
I resonate with all of the activism
people on the streets. My daughter
is in Brooklyn, New York,
big time out there for all of the
causes that means something to her,
the things that were awakened, the racism,
the inequality, all the issues of
equity. I guess what. I
value that so much and she's good
at that, but I'm not good at
being loud and getting out there with
that voice, you know. But I
feel like I can help spread that
compassion, that love through other ways,
you know, with writing. I
do newsletter where it's inspirational, you know
what we're going through at the time. I Post a lot on Instagram,
just daily things that will bring me
joy. Joy as kind of like my
pulse point, because you've got to
find it. If you don't have that,
and you can find it even in
that dark place. There's something in
there that you can be grateful for
and and celebrate. So anyway, I
feel like, you know, for
me. Anyway, I see people doing
their part and it's just working,
I think. To get us all on
that, you know, we are
not staying the same or not going back
and it's time to shift things.
What can I do to heal myself further
that I can heal others? It's
and also just be part of the the
transition into this new, better place, and we are getting there, we
are going. It's just, yeah, it takes time. First everything has
to break down, right, it's
on. It's like everything has to break
down in order to build it back
up. As evidence of my life,
basically. So, but that's just
I mean, that's just another analogy for
what happens in the world and I
think if you take any experience that's happening,
you can apply it to either the
broader context, the collective, or
you can apply it to yourself.
You know, if you seglect to plant,
it's going to die. If you
overwater it, if you hover,
if you you know, don't allow
the plant to grow and do go through
the process that it's meant to go
through, you're going to to Turre its
growth or even smother it. You
know, you know, and every situation
is really the same. It comes
down to those same very basic principles of
the way that life begins, the
way that it grows, you know,
and then the way that completes at
the end. And so goodnuation that the
world is in same thing, you
know, and it needs as much light
and sun and Water and air and
space as it can possibly get, you
know. And I think the joy. Hell, yeah, joy. And
I hear a lot of people that
are like, I don't know, you
can't just be happy all the time. Really, why is it so much
better to be miserable all the time? You know, a lot of people
ask me that, like do you
wake up like this? And I must
talk about that. Yeah, I
kind of do, because I set that
intention for myself, because I know
that my ability to rise above all of
the hard struggles, I mean just
even the thing that's been weighing on my
heart heavily is those fires up in
the sequoias. Those trees are millions of
years old, I think thousands at
least, and you know, when you
think about just how a fire can
just so quickly distruct but then you think,
okay, this is a cycle.
Yet we burn and we're reborn and
we learn how to not you know, take unnecessary risks and just do it
better next time. But anyway,
what I was going to say was a
point about just this healing that takes
place for all of us. It doesn't
mean there's anything really that wrong with
you, it's just you want to be
closer to your real self. And
guess what, when you come in without
attitude, without judgment and everything,
you have so much to be grateful for
every day. That's why I'm happy. The other day, I just look
at it like, you know what, I get to do this today,
I and even if it's something terrible, like I get to, you know,
be exhausted or I get to be
whatever I'm feeling. I don't know
what I'm trying to say there,
but basically, happy is a choice that
you make every single day, and
I know you do it too, and
it's easier for some people, and
I think a lot of it too for
me was that I was always that
kind of sense, a sensitive person who
is observant, and when you're observing
you're in the moment, you're in that
present moment awareness where that's where everything
is happening, that's where the joy lives.
Basically, right you're not thinking about
tomorrow. You're not looking in the
past. So it's easier to be
happy when you're in that present moment.
Yeah, and I think it's in
and I know, I don't think,
I know for sure, that it's
also that the decision to be happens in
our minds. And so we live
in a society that is learning that being
in a state of anger and repression
and frustration is actually not a healthy way
for us to move forward. And
I come from the East Coast, where
sometimes people can be here like a
little, you know, fiery. Me
Too. I'm pay where are you? Yeah, from Brooklyn. I'm a
really good playing yes, yes,
love it over there. And I recognize
that there are some people who say
again, like the world is terrible,
how could you be happier, you
know, as if being miserable helps or
as if being joyful means that you
are out of touch with reality. And
when you really do take a look
at what happens in your body and in
your mind, when you're living in
the date of misery and the damage that
it does to every part of you, it is all about energy. You
hit it right there. You hit
it. Make a different choice, make
a different choice, try a different
choice and you can still do all the
things you know and respond to the
things that are going on around you that
perhaps you want to shift. But
anger and being in a combative relationship with
the world around you is just about
as disappowering a position as you can possibly
put yourself in. disempowering and it
is in a state of dissonance. Instead
of being in that staff consonance where
you're joined with others, you're separating yourself.
It's your ego acting, yes,
but you know you're talking about just
another thing that is just so amazing, and it is the the spiritual light
that forms our auric field. Are
Chakras filled constantly with everything that we think.
We take in all information, what
we read, who we speak with.
We've been taking other people's energies,
you know, even us, you
and me, where we're creating an
agree absolutely even though we're not together.
And it yeah, so the bottom
line is when you learn to master your
energy, then guess what it's like. It's like when you have in the
bottom of a little, say a
bowl, it's dirty water. If you
keep pouring that good, clean water
in, eventually those little sediments they get
rinsed out. But it takes time
and it's like you don't just get rid
of it all at once, you
know. So that's the practice of just
being in touch and connecting to that
higher power. I can't not talk about
that. It's on because it's very
important in my life. And, you
know, whatever you want to call
it, God source, the higher anything.
God. Yes, God is there
and guess what, God is good
and we are given opportunities to either
flow with God or resists. Right,
and most of our journey is spent
resisting a lot and we're going to continue
to do that, I think.
But we're human, but we do have
the that eternal spark, that spirit, and that's our guiding light. Absolutely.
I have two questions before we go
that I'd like to Oh great,
so say around with it way I
know open. Okay, question number one
is we talked about. You just
mentioned the fact that we do share energy,
whether we're on the phone even,
you know, through social media.
You know, if I think about
the number of energetic connections that you make
every single day, and you're connecting
to ads that are there, the movies
that you watch, the conversations that
you engage in, everything is energy and
everything is about the connection of energy. That's you know, and it's all
the energy of love. Like that
is the journey, is to get on
the love band wagon, because the
more of those that the bigger totally total
lands. I know quite a few
people who are in the work of nervous
and especially spiritual service, who refer
to themselves as m paths and who speak
quite a bit about taking on other
people's Energy and the heaviness of that.
And so long we winded way of
asking getting to my question, which is,
what do you do to keep your
energy clean, like how do you
maintain your energy on a day to
day basis? Cynthia, that is such
a beautiful question and something that I
teach, and of course I've learned this
from my own experiences at the spiritual
arts institute. It's a metaphysical school,
which is just simply about the journey
of your soul. So we work with
divine light and it's the energy that
rules the universe. I mean it's it's
I mean we're stardust right, I
mean we're part of the molecules, the
particles of every living thing around us, and I believe, and what I
have been studying with is that energy
that you take in must be cleared.
So I meditate with divine light every
day. I ask for what I need.
There's a spiritual color in everybody's or
for every emotion, every attribute.
You want strength, you call on
the gold light. You want love,
you call on the pink. You
want you want to be cleansed and purified,
there's this beautiful it's an orange red
flame, like a just a clearing
energy to take away those old things. So every day I start my morning
I meditate, I clear, I
cleansed, I rejuvenate. Asked for that
life force energy and my bones and
my atoms and cells, and then I
ask for whatever I need, like
today, actually, I I meditated with
a turquoise ray of abundance. Abundance
not just in prosperity, but just abundance
in all things that bring joy to
this world. Let it flow to me,
from me, through me, whatever
you're going to do, take me
through there. And Yeah, my
mantra this year. On my birthdays,
when I'm flowing with the universe,
I am limitless. So I wanted to
get in that wealth consciousness of my, you know, just my reality is
limitless, you know. So,
anyway, I do that and then it's
very important. I actually have a
video on instagram. It's called meditation,
my Meditation Video, and it tells
you my step, five steps every night
I take to cleanse and clear energy
that you've taken in. So you come
into your bed, put away your
devices, if you need them later,
just set them aside right and then
you close your eyes and take a deep
inhale and as you exhale, you
hopps. First you ask for the Golden
Bubble of protection to be sealed around
you. Now, this sounds like,
Oh wow, what's that going to
do, but I just want you to
try it now. Just close your
eyes and just imagine now this beautiful golden
lights circling around you and seven clockwise
flows in this energy is your safety,
that between you and anything that is
not for your good or the greater good
of all and just you are now
in this bubble, protected. And then
I take a deep inhale every night
and I ask for those energies that I
have taken in that are now completed, to be released, and you just
feel it washed down through your body
and out through the soles of your feet.
And then, when you're done with
that, take a few deep breaths
relax, center in and then open
your eyes and you're going to be cleansed.
Yeah, golden bubble, golden bubble, and then just as for that
water shed, that release of all
energies of your day, I love and
if it's going to work, yeah, I have a similar one. It's
funny because there is so many different
ways to do that, to cleanse ourselves,
and the importance is to cleanse yourself
like, find the one that feels
good and that feels right and that
resonates with you and do that. But
you can, you know something,
even going into a big venue, now
that we're, you know, back
in groups together stuff, when, before
you walk in that door, just
close your eyes, seal yourself in that
Golden Light, asking you know,
I want to be protected now from any
outside energies that are not for my
good or for the greater good of all,
and that just gives you that current
just to walk through that door knowing
that people can do whatever they're doing
and it's not going to get in your
energy field. So I do use
that divine light a lot. I really
recommended. It's really transform my life, just giving me that personal power of
what I need calling on it and
take a little and it's this thing that
we say about, you know,
we're not alone or not wanting to be
alone, and the truth is that
being alone, we're never really alone.
First of all, right, and
second of all, the alone is really
where that when you recognize that there
is a conversation and communication happening. So
being alone is really just getting yourself
grounded enough and cleans enough to recognize that
there's a communication happening. Anyway.
That's said. It perfects what alone is.
Alone is not isolation. Isolation is
when we, you know, go
and shut ourselves off from the world, excuse me, and put ourselves into
a position of feeling like there's nobody
there for us, which is pretty that's
isolation. That's different to recognize to
and I hear, you know, with
my clients and you know we have, you know, it's personal when we
do the spiritual healings and they share
with me what their feeling, you know,
trying to Transmitt that energy, and
a lot of people do feel just
like they don't fit in, like
they're there's this a loness, no matter
who's with them, around them.
And you know, working with your own
spiritual energy, working with that light
within you and developing it and growing it.
It just opens you up to,
like you said, that portal of
knowing that you're not actually alone,
you're you're you're connected to everything and with
everyone around you. Really, when
you believe that in your heart and soul,
and you know, I don't think
you could feel as a loness as
he struggles of some people are.
So anyway, we could go on and
on about this good way and I
think we could later think I think we
should come back, but I do
because I'm I'm really focused on relationships right
now and and the audience is,
hopefully, and so a lot of,
as you know, a lot of
what I believe is around the relationship that
we're in with ourselves, and that's
really just, you know, to prep
us to be in better relationships with
other people. So sent to you and
your husband. If you don't mind, three tips or three things that you
learned about relationship or something about really
okay, would be fantastic. Here is
a fabulous impetus for anyone who's struggling
with do and in a relationship. Number
One, I believe in past lives
and I believe in future lives and I
believe that you are here with the
people in your life that you have those
close one on ones, with two
being Karma, being union with them to
solve it. There are many people
in your life that you don't have anything
to resolve. So those are those
harmonious flows. When you come like this,
was someone knowing that if you don't
solve it in this lifetime, you're
going to have to face it again
in the next. That number one for
me was an impetus because I thought
this is down and dirty right now.
If I cut the ties, if
he cuts the ties, we're going to
be screwed for that next time.
We have to work it out. Yeah,
and number two, when I started
realizing that it wasn't him, it
was me. I also took part
in this relationship for how many years at
that point? Twenty five years.
And you know, when you start like
you, you speak a lot of
you know, just not being the victim,
just taking that responsibility. When I
realized that, everything I was thinking
about what he had done or was
doing. When I put that back on,
well, what did I do?
What did I say? How did
I react? And you know,
I remember, just for the for helping
me through, I had just this
little sign up on my mirror. There
was that soccrate sign, which is
the unexamined life is not worth living.
Right. So every time I thought
like, Oh man, he's the one
that did everything, and I just
thought, you know, I keep Digginson,
you got to keep going in there. Why? Why? And so
that's number two. And number three
was when you love somebody, I don't
know, there's just some soul connection
and you gotta you might not even be
able to live with them, but
you got to honor that love and we
had that love. So we were
lucky, I think. And it's not
for everybody to go back to your
husband and, you know, work it
out or anything. It's not going
to work all the time and that's just
the way it's meant to be.
But for us, thankfully, it did
work out. So little bit of
counseling along the way, it doesn't hurt,
and just the effort knowing that now
our Karma has been totally solved.
We are like two best friends,
two kids in a candy store. So
I can't even imagine if we had
broken up what it would have felt like,
how different my life would be now, even you know, just so
that's the answer. Just yeah,
figure it out. Figure it out,
do you, and how can you
come to some resolution to leave this in
a good place by the time your
time is up? That's all. Doesn't
maybe have to begin back together.
And I think Karma, you know,
is an interesting metaphysical concept and I
think even for the life that you're in
right now, you know, if
you cut things with that truly examining the
relationship and examining who you are in
the relationship in addition to who that other
person is, what you wind up
doing, or what many people wind up
doing, is bouncing from that situation
and then you wind up going to find
a person with the same exact thing, different face, different name, and
until you resolve a thing, it's
going to keep presenting itself to you.
How all the other times that's a
man or a woman. Sometimes that's a
relationship, some other relationship, a
friendship, a job, totally manager or
people that work for you, like
you. What we choose not to resolve
continues to come back, because God
and the universe is always wanting to help
us to heal and present his opportunities
to heal and they give us those opportunities
to rectify and to fix it and
to try to learn and go on.
And you know what, it's funny
when you talk about just this thing about
healing, and I and I remember
back two years ago, I just,
you know, I just gotten more
intuitive, and I think we all have
during two thousand and twenty and everything
that we went through, being alone and
all that in our home. But
Anyway, I got this message about healing
and I remember posting something about that. I thought two thousand and twenty was
going to be the year of healing, and I received a lot of feedback
from people are saying like what we're
doing, great, we don't need healing
because, guess what, we're kicking
ass whatever. But the bottom line is
healing is what we're all doing,
whether you don't, absolutely don't want to
call it that, it's our responsibility
and just and I'm so happy and proud
for people and I see you and
what you're doing and and just how you
just are making a difference, reaching
out to others because, guess what,
we all meet each other and absolutely
and it is a healing journey to be
our true selves. It's not that
we're broken. Were shattered, although,
you know, we got some cracks
along. Yeah, yeah, but anyway,
I just am so I just every
day I wake up and I see
the goodness in the world that I
see and you're one of them. I
tune into your thank you some podcast
you and I see your beautiful face smiling
when you know you could be out
there, just like everybody else, finding
something to complain about. You know, and I all Ague you that.
Yeah, yeah, I value you. Thank you so very much. Thank
You, cure. Your time is
valuable and I really appreciate you wanting a
feeling to spend an hour with me. Thank you so much. I can't
believe it's been an hour already.
I know and I know. Thank you.
I hope that you all enjoyed the
conversation that Cynthia and I had as
much as we enjoyed sharing it with
you again. There are so many things
that are beautiful about this life experience
that we're having and so many ways that
we can tap into the solutions for
the things that maybe don't feel as good.
So I encourage you to listen to
this episode, listen to it again
and really take down some notes,
and I hope that they're within this conversation.
Are Things that you took from it
that will help you in moving forward.
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