Why You Keep Dating the Same Person with Sabrina Zohar
October 15, 2026 · 1 hr 5 min
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Find out why you keep falling for the same person and what it takes to finally break the pattern.
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In this episode
- How childhood attachment styles shape the partners you choose as an adult
- Why intense chemistry is not the same thing as long-term compatibility
- A concrete script for telling your partner when something triggers you
- Why a healthy relationship can feel boring at first and what to do about it
About this episode
At 25, Sabrina Zohar sent a man she barely knew 173 unanswered text messages from a friend's bathroom floor. Years later, she realized she was never in love with him. She was in love with being chosen.
In this episode, Jeff sits down with Sabrina Zohar, relationship coach, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and author of the new book Why Am I Like This?, to trace how childhood wiring shows up in who we date, how we fight, and why healthy love can feel boring at first.
- How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles form, and why they're more fluid than social media suggests
- Repetition compulsion and why you keep dating the same type of person
- Why chemistry doesn't mean compatibility, and why money, kids, and shared life goals matter more
- A word-for-word script for talking to your partner about a trigger
- Why green flags can feel uncomfortable, and how corrective experiences change what feels safe
This episode is for anyone who keeps repeating the same relationship pattern and wants to understand where it comes from. Find Sabrina's new book, Why Am I Like This?, at sabrinazohar.com/book.
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