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A father traces the cycle of abandonment he inherited and how he tried to break it for his daughters.
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In this episode
- What a bitter divorce at 13 taught one man about the father he wanted to become
- Why letting a child make her own hard decision is an act of respect, not neglect
- How vulnerability and discipline can replace the stoic mask many men were handed
- A practical case for mudita, finding genuine joy in someone else's happiness
About this episode
“I guess big boys do cry.” Jeff’s daughter Lolli said this after he collapsed onto her bed in a full, pillow-drenching sob while his father was fighting colon cancer.
In this episode, Jeff closes the series by tracing the fatherhood he inherited and the one he’s tried to build in its place. He starts with a bitter divorce at 13 and a dad who fought for custody to break his own cycle of abandonment. He offers a long-overdue apology to the mother he shunned, and he credits Schuyler, whom he met at seventeen, with making the healing possible. He also lays out what the girls taught him in return. He let Phoebe decide whether to come home from a miserable school trip to Joshua Tree. He found two meditation apps on the iPad of a daughter who forbids him from saying the word. His closing case is for a different kind of masculinity: courage as vulnerability, discipline as discipleship, and pride as mudita, the Buddhist joy in someone else’s joy.
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